Monday, September 3, 2012

   4 MAJOR Signs they're not into you!

 



Let me start off saying that just because a person is not into you doesn't mean he/she is a bad person. It can be several reasons why they're not. And it doesn't mean that you are a bad person. Sometimes it's clear that a person is interested in you, but it is often the case that a person sends mixed signals as well.
Be mindful that these signs are some of the many signs that a person is just not that into you. There are other things you want to consider like if their action doesn’t matches up with their words, which is something you want to pay attention and be observant. “The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.”~Mayo Angelo


Look for some good qualities in a person who is
Understanding Appreciative Respectful Caring and kind
Helpful Trustworthy Positive Fun to be around
Knows God-Relationship


There are however, some clear signs they’re not interested. I have listed 4 MAJOR ones below with some examples:


1. Inconsistent- Inconsistent behavior causes misunderstandings and uncertainty. For example, one minute they call or text you all week and then go a few weeks without contacting you, that’s inconsistency.


2. Don't make time for you- If they constantly make plans and cancel with never rescheduling it's not a good thing
 and if they never pick up the phone to talk, get to know you. It's ok texting someone but if you're interested in getting to know someone do it via talking, it's more personable and sometimes texting can be very misunderstood

3. They don't introduce you to friends and family-
(Over a period of time)
If they are always around with their friends and family but they don't invite you. It could be uncontrollable things, such as acceptance of them and they don't want to look or feel uncomfortable around them
 (they are worried/concerned on how their judged)


4. Conversation-
Think about the kind of conversation the two of you have. Do they only talk about themselves? Are they expressing how they feel or mention an interest in you? If this person never asks about you, your life, or your thoughts, then there's a chance they don't much care, and this means you should probably move on and find someone who wants to learn more about you.

Here are some other self explanatory sings that they’re not into you:
 PAY ATTENTION AND DON’T BE DESPERATE TO SETTLE FOR LESS

They maintain physical and emotional distance
They don’t respond to you right away
They only call after midnight
They won't let you leave things at their house
They won't go out in public with you
They tell you to date other people
They won’t make any plans to hang out with out
They give you the feeling that you’re being used
They give you signs that you are one of many options 
They don't make it crystal clear just how much you mean to them
They seem moody and only wants to be around you when it suits them



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 Love Always, 

Tiffany Lael

Sunday, July 1, 2012

When life happens, what do you do?


When life happens we simply can choose to let it affect us or we accept it, we do have choices on what and how we feel about it. We are affected by the circumstances it has caused, but have you chosen to get over it and move on? What I mean by acceptance is the fact that this has occurred. I know when life (things) happens, we can get angry, confused, stress, emotionally unbalanced, hurt, sad, bitter etc. But we have to rise above those feelings. Most times we don’t understand or realize ”why has this happened to me” do you believe that everything happens for a reason? Ask yourself that.
Did you ever feel like you’re stuck or can’t move because of what has occurred when life happens? Let me be the first to tell you, YOU CAN MOVE ON!


Me personally I’ve been faced and challenged in life when things happened that I had no control over or didn’t see coming, so I want to share with you how I choose and apply things in life that helped me get through it. Practice this daily and feed your mind with positive things.
Please remember that God doesn’t give you too much that you can’t bear I've never been ashamed or afraid to lean on God's promises in difficult times.

When life happens~ I choose to give God thanks
When life happens~ Keep moving forward, you still have to live
When life happens~ I choose to wake up smiling and count my blessings
When life happens~ There’s a lesson in every mistake, are you learning that lesson?
When life happens~ I choose to accept things, as they say it is what it is right
When life happens~ I give my battles to God, knowing I can’t win them all
When life happens~ I choose to get over it and don’t hold grudges, that’s not healthy
When life happens~ I embrace the learning experience from it
When life happens~ I choose to keep my head high, I still have a great future
When life happens~ Acknowledge and be aware of what has took place
When life happens~ I choose to accept that it has happened
When life happens~ Things I can’t control I give it God
When life happens~ I choose to be happy NO MATTER WHAT
When life happens~ I believe & know that nothing formed against me shall prosper
When life happens~ I choose my attitude towards it
When life happens~ I keep fighting the good fight
When life happens~ I continue to grow and become wiser, despite of
When life happens~ I go out and create things, looking to the sky
When life happens~ I chose to still motive, inspire and lift others up


 Key thing I want you to remember is that when life happens, know where you stand with that situation and know your purpose for moving past it and keep going with your head and spirits high.

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Tiffany Lael


Thursday, May 3, 2012

Get your mind right and live!




 I see so much going on in this world and many are not focused on their lives like how we are suppose to be. GET YOUR MIND RIGHT AND LIVE, you simply have to take the time to focus on your priorities in your life! Until you get your mind right you'll never be able to get your life right. Sadly many are worried or concerned with things that don’t even make a difference in their lives, we are too concerned with drama, issues, gossip and other things that don’t pertain to self-growth. I want to strongly encourage you to stop it immediately. I understand there are many distractions that can occur daily with social media, entertainment and unexpected circumstances. I know how easily it is to get "caught up" in it. But you have to think, isn't there more to life than just this?  YES THERE IS.
Start surrounding yourself with positive things and people, pick up a book or read an article that reflects some type of personal self growth and educate yourself with wisdom, wisdom has no age limit at all!~

If you have a talent, passion or gift that you want to live out, simply go get it! You have to create it; it simply won't come to you. Even in this economic time we can still live out our passions. I personally know about the struggle of finding my passion and talent (I had to seek and pray on it), once I discovered it I wanted to live it out fully, thus is the reason why I'm a Life/Relationship Coach. I simply enjoying help others in their lives, that's a gift given from God and I'm out here executing and living it; despite of my past circumstances and or barriers I've had/have. If I can do at the age of 30 years old, YOU CAN TOO! It starts with believing in yourself and BELIEVING IS ENOUGH.
If you’ve been trying to make your passion a reality, do not quit. If something doesn’t work, all you have to do is change your approach. Look at people who are already doing what you want to do, and learn from them if all possible. “When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.” – Confucius

Remember you were born for a purpose; your life has a purpose. You should want to live out your life abundantly with your talents or passion.  The devil is out to destroy us daily; he wants to seek and kill us spiritually, mentally, physically and financially. I know we can't control most things that happen in our lives, but we have control over how much we stay prayed up and live our lives according to how God want us to. A prayer a day keeps the devil away! 
Remember, mind transformation always precedes life transformation. "... but be transformed by the renewing of your mind" (Romans 12:2 NIV) Get your mind right and live!


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Tiffany Lael

Thursday, March 8, 2012

9 Great ways to love yourself ~ Self Love

Self love next to God’s love is truly the best. There is nothing like loving and accepting yourself. Many are seeking completeness from others without realizing you have to complete you with LOVE first! This is very crucial in life as it helps boost self-confidence. You should have so much love in your heart for yourself, where you can heal yourself along with God’s help. I have listed 9 great ways to help you get some SELF LOVE.

1. Give yourself compliments daily~ Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself how beautiful you are (build your self esteem) Pat yourself on the back with your successful accomplishments thus far!

2.  Accept who you are~ There are many things we can’t change within ourselves such as your skin color for example learn to accept who you are, God created you so you’re just right. Remember no one is perfect aiming for perfection is a loss so please don’t do it!

3.  Stop comparing~ Sadly many of us have done this time and time again, so let me repeat STOP comparing yourself to others. Nobody can be you, even if they tried to; you are wonderfully and uniquely made to be who YOU ARE. Remember nobody else is YOU.

4.  Stop being so hard on yourself~ Did you know we are OUR own worst enemy? Give yourself a break on things that can’t be changed or fixed or undone.

5.  Add to your faith in your life~ Talk positivity into your life, speak and believe that YOU are the best. In addition to reminding yourself that God unconditionally love you. 2 Peter 1 5-6 5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness.

6. Forgive yourself from your past mistakes and failures~ You have to learn to understand that certain things that may have or have not happened in your life is all for a reason!  Whatever it is simply forgive yourself and keep moving, life does go on! Close the door that’s behind you and keep it closed, that’s how YOU move forward. Kill the old stuff and smile.

7.  Gain inner strength~ Whatever your inner strength is that YOU have been holding onto keep that and maintain it, remember your sole purpose on why you are being strong and have that strength. Sometimes it can be a challenge but it can be done.

8.  Eliminate any self doubt~ Please stop this right now, don’t doubt yourself one bit in any way, that only leads to confusion, stress and frustration. Have a sense of clarity in believing yourself in life. If no one believes in YOU, you continue to believe in you. 

9.  Treat yourself right~ Take the time out to pamper yourself. Buy something new for yourself when time and money is allowed. You deserve nothing but the best so make sure you take time out to look good daily and take care of your personal hygiene. We all love someone who looks and smells good.

I also want to encourage you to continue to walk with God in life with so much going on in this world we can sometimes get off track; if we get ahead of God we confuse ourselves on many different things. Stay on the right path stay blessed!





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Tiffany Lael