How to prevent common relationship mistakes!

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Many people who start relationships go into them, making many mistakes some known and some unknown. We all make common mistakes, some learn from them some don’t. You want to go into a relationship with a healthy and conscious mind. In addition to knowing what you want out of the relationship. I want to help you prevent some common relationship mistakes I will also provide 1 out of many possible solutions for it.



 1. Seeking to change that person~ People think just because you’re now in a relationship with them, you have more power to change them. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! You can’t change them, people can only change themselves. You can only make suggestions for them on certain behavior and things that you don’t like about them. Stop trying to tell them how to dress, how to walk, talk, whom to hang out. The solution: Love them, as they were when you were dating or release yourself from the relationship if you aren’t happy with them. You can only change you and have hopes they see the changes and it rubs off on them. Love them unconditionally.

2. Having/setting unrealistic expectations~ Many of us come into a relationship expecting and demanding things, some of them are unrealistic. Expectations may lead to disappointments and frustrations. The solution: Every relationship should have expectations that are solid, healthy and realistically based.

3. Not allowing time between your last relationship~ Please don’t jump from one relationship to another. That is a screaming failure for sure. The solution: Allow yourself to heal from the past relationship and learn something from it. Be aware of your emotions and what you want in the next relationship.

4. Being selfish ~ Being selfish is putting one’s own needs above those of everybody else, making it all about you. It focuses only on pleasing oneself. A relationship involves 2 partners not one. The solution: STOP being selfish, nothing good ever comes from being selfish. It can lead to despair; misery and can cause relationship problems.

5. Seeking them to complete you~ If you are looking for your partner to fill an emptiness within yourself, you will always remain unsatisfied; therefore you make yourself happy. The solution: Seek completeness within yourself first, this plays a part with having self love and having self-esteem, knowing your worth and value!
 (Check out my blog on how to gain self worth and value, under older post)

6. Being emotionally unstable~ I’m not stating don’t go into a relationship this way, I want you to be fully aware of your emotions, that way you know how to mange & handle them. Ensure you know what is causing a behavior to make you emotionally unstable (find the root of the problem)  A relationship takes work; you have to have trust, communication, honestly, respect and understanding. The solution: Learn to handle and manage your emotions prior to getting into a serious relationship. You can read my blog here on How to handle them (Look under older post)




 So ask yourself this “am I ready to be in a relationship?”

 Know what you want out of the relationship; remember if God is not the center of your relationship, it won't work. 

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 Love Always, 
Tiffany Lael

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